Dear Dad: Happy Valentine’s Day
We all remember that great line from Wedding Crashers don’t we?
Claire Cleary: What is true love?
John Beckwith: True love is your soul’s recognition of its counterpoint in another.
Claire Cleary: Well. It’s a little cheesy but I like it.
John Beckwith: Ah I saw it on a bumper sticker!
In light of this momentous holiday I thought that I would share some facts and of course some of my personal thoughts on the holiday (you didn’t think you would get off that easy did you?). There’s actually just a few points I’m going to make.
Point #1: Let’s start with the exchange above. Personally I love it. Simple, not hard to understand, no hidden meaning, “Easy Like Sunday Morning”. It suggests that love isn’t complicated but rather just the opposite, when you subconsciously recognize that you’ve found someone else who fits you and all of your quirks, habits, and humor. Well, I hope that’s what it’s like because anything else just sounds like too much work, right Taylor Swift? And I think that Aristotle would agree, “Love is composed of a single soul inhabiting two bodies.”
About 8 billion candy hearts will be produced this year; that’s enough candy to stretch from Rome, Italy to Valentine, Arizona 20 times and back again.
In Medieval times, girls ate unusual foods on St Valentine’s Day to make them dream of their future husband.
More than 36 million heart-shaped boxes of chocolate are sold for Valentine’s Day each year.
Point #2: Okay ladies and gents, back to my soap box I go… Seriously, that’s insane, who eats all that candy? I’ll tell you who DOESN’T, this chick right here. Yuck. Thinking about how much candy is consumed on this day each year made me start thinking a little more about “relationships” and being “comfortable”. Something that my dad taught me as I grew up that always stuck with me was “never let yourself get too comfortable” those were his exact words, “you always want to look your best for whoever you are with” he also said. That resonated with me, and I’ve never forgotten it. I am certainly not going to pretend to be Dr. Phil (ha!) but I do think my dad is onto something. I’m really sorry ladies, but sweats with holes in them and huge T-shirts that fit like pillowcases, with zero effort in your appearance is not flattering on anyone. Ditch that look please and stop giving the rest of us a bad rap.
Feeling like your relationship could use some spark? How about adding any type of physical activity with your partner? Gold’s Gym suggests partnering up! “The studies are in and the experts agree: Finding a workout buddy or a band of fellow fitness fans is good for your mind and body and, sometimes, your love life.” Every year Gold’s Gym has a promotion called “More Love Less Handles” and offers free workout classes for couples all over the country. What a great way to jump start a healthy love year! Adding some extra pep in your step can not only boost your energy level together but it also helps with the idea of wanting to always impress each other.
Point #3: One last note on love on this day of over zealous attempts to impress. Keep it simple fellas… Frommer’s published an article on “10 Over-the-Top Valentine’s Day Packages”, but personally I think they’ve got it all wrong. I’ve been on my share of great vacations, but I’ve never been in love with a destination. Advice for my male readers: If you want to tell your Valentine just how special she is, start by just saying so. The words “I love you” never hurt anyone.
Happy Valentine’s Day dad.